Asking the question

How are things going with your partner? What is your relationship like?

I noticed you have a number of bruises/cuts, I am concerned about you, would you tell me about it?

You don’t seem yourself lately. I was wondering if maybe something isn’t right. Can we talk about it?

Further possible questions

Have you ever felt scared of anybody in your family?
Have they hurt you in some way? What did they say about it?
Have they ever thrown things or broken things? Do they get angry?
What happens when they get angry? What do you think they would be capable of doing?
Do they get jealous of you seeing friends, talking to other people or going out? If so what happens?
What would happen if you did something they didn’t like or you disagreed with them?
If you don’t want to do certain things, do you feel able to tell them?
Do you ever have sex because you feel you have to rather than because you want to?
Is this what you think it should be like?
What would you like to be different?
If you had a friend telling you this, what would you think? What would you say?

Thank you for sharing this with me you have done the right thing in telling me.
It has taken courage to share this and I am happy that you trusted me enough to talk to me.
This is not okay; you should not be treated like this.
What do you want to do?
How can I help?
What would make things better?

I will support you as best I can, but I need the help of other agencies to keep you safe and so I am going to talk to......
This is what I am going to do in response to what you have told me...
We could call together if you would like that?
I could meet with you and if you want support in telling them...